Love is not blind

We talk so much of love quite often, of judging others' mistakes, of forgiveness, and all that. Here I am putting down a few words about all these aspects. We come across all these in our daily lives.

There is a common saying that "love is blind". To understand the truth of this statement, we must first know which is blind, affinity or aversion, liking or disliking? People say that one who sees with a vision of love can't see everything. Then, do we mean to say that he who sees the most can't see everything? He who can see every frown, every movement and every gesture, who can listen to every word uttered, who can understand the reason for every silence, - he does not understand a person?

One who loves to read poems does not understand their meaning? The poet who visualizes nature with a vision of love does not see the true colour of nature? The scientist who discovers the scientific truths - does he do so only with the help of his research work and materials, without having any love for his subject?

People will say that had not love been blind, then why can't the lover see the faults and mistakes of his loved one? No, it is not like that. He does not consider the faults and mistakes of his loved one as unpardonable faults and mistakes. He does not see any offence in these things. Because a lover can see so much that he can see the surrounding areas of such faults and mistakes, he can read the history behind them.

If we alienate a mistake from a person and then look at it, it would appear to be very offensive. But if we put it in its place and look at it with our innermost eyes and feelings, a mistake or fault does not appear to be that offensive. We only see his faults whom we do not love. We do not see that human beings are apt to make such mistakes, and forget that to err is human. Circumstances have forced that person to make that mistake, and in spite of that, that person may be possessing many good qualities and characteristics for which he can be dearly loved.

Repetitive errors, made by a loved one, may be looked upon with a slightly different perspective. In that case the person at fault loves us less. So he does not care about his mistakes. Still our love enables us to pardon him.

So we can very well see that in love we can see more than what we can see in hatred and disliking. In love we can see the faults and mistakes and at the same time we can see enough reasons to forgive. In hatred and disliking we can see only the faults. Because in hatred our vision is incomplete. In love we can see with both the eyes.

So we should see the faults and good qualities in others in very much the same way as we see them in our loved ones. Because we understand only our loved ones fully. Persons with big hearts can forgive everybody easily. They are great men. Their vision of love is in full bloom. Such vision is incessant; it never ignores anything. They consider every man as the child of God.

When a baby slips and falls down, we lift him up. Same way men with big hearts lift a person with a weak heart, or an offender who is repentant, and help him to stand up. They show pity on people who are weak at heart. They teach us how to love others. They do not hate people.

So, we can see that love is not really blind. On the contrary, vision of love can see the most, which others cannot see.

Translation based on Bengali works of Rabindranath Tagore.

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