Expectation

Most of the times, expectations know no bounds. Such expectations are never need-based or necessity-oriented. The more one yields to other people's unusual wishes, the more he moves away from his cherished goal. Expectations, not always very rational, especially from loved ones, are very difficult to avoid or ignore.

Expectation keeps us annoyed. People are expecting, always. They are expecting us to behave in a particular fashion, expecting us to go out of our own way to help them, which at times may surely be legitimate, expecting us to be present at a particular place at a particular time and so on and so forth. Parents expect their son or daughter to grow up into someone which would be very much to their liking. Thus expectation, in many a ways, prevents us to manifest our own nature. We feel pressurized and remain disturbed. It destroys our tranquility and prevents us from achieving what we love to achieve. We feel like a caged bird, narrowly within our family, and broadly within the society. Our life goes astray.

This way people keep on trying to bring us down to their way of liking and thinking, attaching a zero price tag to all our likings and desires. Soft, kind-hearted people seem to get affected more.

At times one has to break free from this shackle of expectation to achieve something, which he cherishes. A far more liberal attitude from those who are close would go a long way in removing this shackle and set one free to do what his soul wants him to do.

During daytime we can feel this pressure the most when this world expects a lot from us. At night this pressure somewhat eases out, and the whole world seems to belong to us. At night we come within ourselves and find peace. It is during the silence of night that great things fashion themselves. Many a great work of fine art has been accomplished during the night. At night we are the master of our own selves, and are best equipped to serve our own sacred soul.

Then, does it mean that from today onwards we all shall stop expecting? Certainly not! Expectation is an inherent characteristic, deeply embedded within us. One can surely expect that his or her life partner should love him, and bring a present on his or her birthday. Parents are always expected to fulfill their duties towards their children, or children, when they grow up, to look after their aged parents. The poor and unfortunate can always expect some help from the more fortunate people. It can be expected very legitimately that neighbours and relatives should visit a house of mourning and sympathize. To a great extent, in certain basic areas, expectation is definitely legitimate.

However, we have to be very careful not to venture into areas where expectation turns into pressurization, which in turn turns into subordination imposition and compulsion, which in an extreme form may take the shape of enslavement. Conveying the expectation is enough. It should not be pursued like a one-way traffic on a highway.

Also read : Philosophy of everyday Life - 1

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